When Britney sang “I’m not a girl, not yet a woman” we all assumed she was just struggling with a mad career and a stage mom that just wouldn’t quit. That people didn’t understand her… that she didn’t have control over HER OWN ART, PEOPLE. Nope. Turns out she was singing about this goddamn situation right here that I find myself in.
The quarter life crisis is something I heard about constantly in the premature stages of my twenties. Turns out you turn twenty four and BOOM TOWN. Your skin finally clears up but your head goes absolutely bat shit crazy.
Is this the job I want to do for the rest of my life?
Are my seriously going to stay this size then?
Do I have to start really considering potential life long mates?
Can I go off and see the world?
Or should I climb the property ladder?
Utter your age to anyone in your life that is even the slightest bit older than you and every single time, they’ll repeat your age back to you with either an incredulous gasp or a desirable sigh.
” Twenty Five….”
So, Why do we start to question everything in our mid twenties? Well, correct me if i’m wrong but it feels like the media packages our life goals up into neat little pressure bombs with our ages scribed on the front. You better have a promotion by twenty five, have moved in with your partner by twenty eight, and had babies by thirty… or you’re just not succeeding. Ah, gimme a break.
So much is put on us that it’s hard to know if you’re doing anything well, or at the right time at all. If you feel like you’re ahead, (like I did) coming out of uni with a career straight away, there’ll always be someone else who’s lapping you- it’s just the way of the world.
So, I have two words of advice.
What kind of society do we live in that we’re starting to worry about not being the best in our twenties? We haven’t figured ourselves out yet, and guess what? That’s the entire bloody point of having your twenties. Even though you feel like you should be riding an adult bike, you’ve still got one stabiliser on.
So stop worrying, grab that kiddy bike and ride into the sunset with one finger in the air.